Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Seven

It was seven years ago today, a little after 5 a.m., when they handed you to us. Your mother had been sitting in a rocking chair in our apartment the afternoon before, and felt a little tinge of something that seemed worth investigating. I’ll leave it to her to fill you in on the clinical details somewhere down the road. Let’s just say we were sufficiently motivated on a Saturday afternoon to grab our “go” bag and head into the hospital, where we got the confirmation we were hoping for. You were on the way.

Once we were admitted – and my role was basically reduced to administering ice chips and verbal reassurances while trying not to pass out – I remember coming to the strong realization that when we left this place it would be with you. Our two was turning into three. Our marriage was turning into a family.

Seven years ago today, we traded the lives we were living, the only ones we’d ever known, for you. We traded quiet Sunday mornings with coffee and the paper and pleasant mid-afternoon phone calls plotting spontaneous dinners at favorite restaurants for diapers, sleep deprivation and stuffed animals. And it was the best deal we ever made.

Tonight after work I picked you up at dance class. Like we do most every Tuesday night, we stopped off at a little Italian place on the way home for some dinner. You had your usual Caesar salad with the special lemon vinaigrette dressing, and then we split a pizza. You were tired walking in the door and ready to leave mid-way through the first slice. When I motioned to my half-full glass of wine in an appeal for more time you said, and I quote, “Come on, Dad, slurp it down!” True to yourself, Madison, to the end. No matter what life throws at you, I hope it’s something you never lose.

And happy birthday.

127 Comments:

Blogger TriX said...

Very touching!!!!! You must be an awesome dad!!!!

12:11 PM  
Blogger Caroline online said...

So do I (response to your blog's title from another parent :) And Congrats on making Blogs of Note!

12:11 PM  
Blogger TeaLuv said...

That's beautiful. As my parents explained to me, parenthood is something that you don't truly understand until you have a child, but you've given a good glimpse into it..thank u.

12:12 PM  
Blogger Keith365 said...

Priceless! What a great way to start the morning with reading this.

12:13 PM  
Blogger crin=) said...

your most recent blog made me tear up a little.
i like your blogs because they're from a dad point of you, which i need. i often find myself not appreciating my dad, and i hate that. you helped me, a little bit more than a lot.

12:16 PM  
Blogger kreismanis said...

This is very beautiful. Happy Birthday little one!! May all your days be filled with LIFE!

12:33 PM  
Blogger Twinklescrapbooks said...

what a wonderful post. they grow up so fast!

12:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Extremely sweet.

1:17 PM  
Blogger larry said...

that was nice

1:40 PM  
Blogger Kasie said...

That was beautiful. Very short and sweet. Can't wait until my first turns one. Happy birthday to your baby girl.

1:51 PM  
Blogger kiddle97 said...

Hi. I found your blog through Bloggers' Blogs of Note, or whatever they're called, and I just wanted to say thanks. That was a beautiful tribute to your daughter, and it's so wonderful to see you publicly acknowledge that you love being a dad. Your daughters are blessed.

2:38 PM  
Blogger X-tina said...

That was beautiful. Your daughter is very lucky to have you as a father.

3:12 PM  
Blogger paddy said...

Thats so sweet of a parent to write :)

3:23 PM  
Blogger Dad said...

Sorry about the delay in publishing comments - we're up in Vermont for the weekend, trying to get one last use out of the girls' seasonal ski rentals and without reliable access to the Web. I wasn't exactly planning on making Blogger's "Blogs Of Note" today, not that I'm complaining. What an amazing (and appreciated) nod to this site.

Welcome to all our new visitors and I will do my best to get the comments up as soon as I can. I guess I could just throw them open without moderation, but then everyone would have been treated to the unique brand of wisdom provided by the person who wrote to tell me that the world, in fact, isn't perfect, it's actually a pretty cruel and miserable place, mainly because people haven't rallied around the Presidential Candidacy of Ron Paul. It's better this way.

Thanks again for stopping by.

3:52 PM  
Blogger Kelli said...

Found your blog..Great tribute to your daughter! It was very touching! Happy 7th birthday to her!

4:06 PM  
Blogger NeverForgotten said...

I enjoyed this very much. Thank you.

4:39 PM  
Blogger emme said...

This post really touched me...it's the small things in life that will mean the most to us in the end.

I'm so glad that I stumbled across your blog today. I know I'll be back to visit often.

~Emily

5:22 PM  
Blogger Suburbia said...

Congratulations for Blogs of Note.
We do trade our past lives for our new ones with children, but I wouldn't change a thing! (Some quite Sunday mornings would be nice, but, you know, I can cope!!!)

5:30 PM  
Blogger Oberon said...

.......it's time to change the world......it's not that perfect.....great pix.

5:30 PM  
Blogger Tosin Alli said...

I just stumbled upon your post. I wish someday to be a dad. I even dream about it and is what I want the most out of life. Thank you for the reinforcement.

7:13 PM  
Blogger LiveConsciously said...

The name of your blog caught my eye, and I really enjoyed reading about how much you love and appreciate your child. It's always nice to read something positive with all the crazy stuff that goes on elsewhere in the world.

8:11 PM  
Blogger AskAngela said...

Fabulous, I really loved this story and yes your name would be Dad.
Many Blessing's
Angela

8:24 PM  
Blogger oil man said...

=]

9:30 PM  
Blogger joe gelb said...

i respect all of the work that this internet project entails and i have two things to say

1. good job

and

2. good job

10:11 PM  
Blogger cyber mistress said...

Congratulations for inclusion in blog of note... you seem to be a very nice man... rare.

11:59 PM  
Blogger The Whitman Bunch said...

What a beautiful legacy of your children! It's great to read someone who loves their children, its a nice reminder amid the flu rotation and crazy colicky days with the baby that our kids are a true gift! Are you a stay at home Dad? And what kind of camera do you have?? I'm looking for one:)

12:09 AM  
Anonymous john said...

Nice

12:23 AM  
Blogger Jenny said...

Awww, I'm so glad I clicked ont his blog out of all the Blogs Of Note :) It is indeed notable.

I wish you and your family all the happiness in the world!

12:54 AM  
Blogger Riimus Fungus said...

Awesome post! Awesome dad! Awesome blog, I am so happy I ran into it! Happy Birthday Madison!

1:04 AM  
Blogger Loves Widow said...

Wow! I read this and had a smile on my face the entire time. You sound like a great dad so keep it up. Things like this do make it seem just a little more like perfect doesn't it? The little things count and you make the best of it. Good for you!

3:08 AM  
Blogger Ally said...

Nice to know you're on Blogs of Note!
:)

3:35 AM  
Blogger Lissy said...

aww happy bday to madison~

5:17 AM  
Anonymous dez macedo said...

saw your blog for the first time today. nice idea for a blog. nice everything about it.

5:42 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Very touching. I hope my dad would write something for me on my birthday too..^-^

5:49 AM  
Blogger The Barber Bunch said...

Congrats on being a blog of note!

8:09 AM  
Blogger The Unstable Atom said...

Deeply touched. God bless you all!! :-)

8:23 AM  
Blogger Ali Al Axdiri said...

Great,yes,this blog is nearly perfect as its subject... as many bloggers i will link to it today... and to you: i must say, i just love (things and ideas like "this perfect one(s)"

Being or deaming to be like that...a perfectionist, just murmure to you my friend, once and toice again: "I love your filosophie". Congrats.

8:34 AM  
Blogger Thornbird said...

A very touching post... you've expressed your exhilarated feeling of becoming a dad so beautifully... And a happy birthday to Madison!

8:56 AM  
Blogger Kim said...

What a great post - you write beautifully!!!

I'm so happy I found this int he Blogs of Note section. Reading this made my day!

8:59 AM  
Anonymous Jen said...

That's lovely. Happy Birthday Madison.

9:03 AM  
Blogger Lulubellx said...

Very touching your daughter is one very lucky little girl

9:44 AM  
Anonymous Wotta Snap said...

That was gorgeous .. Happy Birthday to your little girl.

9:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

very beautiful.my dad too must have gone thru this when he first held me...but he never told me.i'm glad u did.coincidentally, my birth day falls exactly on the same day as your baby's !!

9:53 AM  
Blogger jyotsana said...

hi
u r a great dad and definitely must b a great human-being too.
we need more people like u in this world to make this place really perfect.

10:35 AM  
Blogger Joanna B., native Texan, Steve Earle fan, resident of Minnesota said...

wow, incredible blog!!! your little girl is a very lucky one to have a day with such dear feelings....

10:43 AM  
Blogger Simon Yes Simon said...

I love you.

This is incredible.

Touching simplicity.

Thanks.

11:22 AM  
Blogger bEAUtiFUL diSAStER said...

Your a good writer, I really like this! Plus, I have a bundle of joy on the way.

12:02 PM  
Blogger LiteralDan said...

Wow, I can't imagine my son turning 7, although of course he will in about 3 years...

I hope I can write something as nice as this when that day comes-- nice work!

12:12 PM  
Anonymous Sofia said...

I love reading your blog! Good job :-)

12:16 PM  
Blogger JG Gordon said...

What a beautiful entry, I hope you continue to capture these moments with words, someday Madison will read them and they'll be like pictures of times past.

12:17 PM  
Blogger The Family Beckwith said...

Super Blog! Wow, the photography is amazing, and your kids are beautiful. My husband and I are both jealous, being the amateur photographers, and wannabe parents that we are.

3:09 PM  
Blogger X said...

this makes me wonder if this is how my mum and dad view me, i mean sometimes i think they hate me...
ehh whatever
well it was a vary nice post

3:40 PM  
Blogger THopgood said...

Wow! What a beautiful thing for your daughter to read...if not now...than one day!

3:53 PM  
Blogger Rae Rae said...

Just happened by your post.
It was beautiful... I think I'll give my dad a call today.
Thanks!

3:59 PM  
Blogger candoor said...

a blog of note indeed, you have my heart cheering for the hope i feel as i read your words... thank you :)

4:40 PM  
Blogger N00DLES said...

This put a huge smile on my face.


Happy birthday Madison!

4:55 PM  
Anonymous PlantBuddy said...

Hi, I'm a new blogger and visiting yours was uplifting. You sound like a wise person who isn't wasting a moment of this precious life and the people you love are fortunate indeed.

5:03 PM  
Blogger Angela said...

You have a beautiful blog!

5:37 PM  
Blogger Kinggame said...

When you ask people with and without kids how happy they are at that moment, those without kids, on average rate themselves happier.

When you ask both groups how happy their life has been, it's not even close, and the parents are fulfilled. New life is something worth living for, now and for the rest of your days.

5:43 PM  
Blogger Coldness said...

I'm a new blogger as well,and I just wanted to say that was just absolutely beautiful! Thx :)

5:47 PM  
Blogger Eva said...

Hi. You don't know me, but I loved this blog and thought it was very touching. It's also nice to see a Dad who is comfortable writing about these topics.

7:33 PM  
Blogger mermaiden said...

wow.. i love the reads. beautiful...

9:16 PM  
Blogger Chelsey said...

Your daughter is so blessed to have to have such a thoughtful father! I would have given anything for that! Yay for great dads!

11:22 PM  
Blogger Audra said...

That was very sweet! Happy Birthday, Madison.

12:15 AM  
Blogger toñito said...

i really like the title of this article, and the tile of the blog.
it made me remember that not everything is lost..

Have a nice day

12:32 AM  
Blogger Connie said...

I feel like this.... that the world is perfect.... most of the time... but when I'm with my five-year old granddaughter the world is... perfect.

12:38 AM  
Blogger msk said...

the words are deep and affecting, simple yet touching.

1:52 AM  
Blogger CompletelyAnonymous said...

That was absolutely beautiful. Your daughter is so lucky to have a father like you...and I'm sure you're just as lucky to have a daughter like her. May all your days be blessed.

2:06 AM  
Blogger stroph said...

i feel sorry for you... having to read all of these comments. beautiful blog. i love the topic, life. my blog (Me and Life) is pretty much the same only i try to help others through life... if you need any advice let me know... just leave a comment on my blog or something.

2:19 AM  
Blogger DayDreamBeliever said...

Happy belated birthday to Madison. Hope she knows what a great dad she's got!

5:04 AM  
Blogger Dante said...

How touching!

6:32 AM  
Blogger Dante said...

That is such a touching post!

6:34 AM  
Blogger The Family Beckwith said...

I thought your blog was great before, but it went over the top when I saw your Peet's Coffee link. We just moved to the East Coast and I was worried we wouldn't find it here.

However, if you are ever in the Boise area, try Java Chicks. BEST COFFEE EVER.

8:28 AM  
Blogger Laura said...

Lovely post! Nice description of such a huge amount of feelings.
Greetings from Spain!

10:09 AM  
Blogger Michael said...

Very touching. I can't say that I agree with your title, and I'm not always as grateful for my own child (who turns 12 today, in fact) as I should be.

But well said.

10:38 AM  
Blogger The Cultural Voyeur said...

Evocative, my Father raised me in a single handed capacity during visitations; a good Father is an exceptionally strengthening gift for girls, who become women and bench mark their partners to your standards.
"The because I am a Man" old time excuse fails to ring true. Bravo.

10:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I almost had to cry when I read this.
I understand, absolutely.

On Aprile 14th, 2008 at 6:53am, my son will be 14 years old. Time has gone by all too rapidly.

I, too, recall the first moments of his life. Out he came, the doctors asking me if I'd like to "cut the cord". Having been awake all night, the question slide over my head for an instant, then I did it. They wiped him down, and brought him to a table where he lay naked and new.
I had on latex gloves, and so did everyone else in the operating room, but I had to take mine off.
You see, I wanted to be the first human to touch him. And, so I did, and the nurse was unhappy but he was not. I placed my hand over his chest and felt the beating of a brand-new human being, my son, Ian.

11:07 AM  
Blogger Jean said...

Easter is a time of love, family and peace. It is a time when we say a quiet thanks for all that we have, and for all that the future holds.
You are so blessed and you have made my Easter Sunday by just reading your blog.
Keep up the good work!

11:30 AM  
Blogger Mystique said...

I agree! world is a perfect. It's us who can make it a better or a worse place to live in.

All the best!

www.mystique2008.blogspot.com

dita

12:14 PM  
Blogger Skateboy said...

dude... that was sweet

12:37 PM  
Blogger Meredith said...

I love that you are a dad blogging...what a great point of view

1:02 PM  
Blogger Bob Guijarro said...

I really liked your blog and i'm adding it to my links. I'm also a Mac User. Really, really nice blog. Congrats on everything and wishes that all things keep on as good as they are.

3:01 PM  
Blogger Mina Jade said...

It was touching for me to read that a father takes care to his child like this...

3:37 PM  
Blogger atypicalheroine said...

Uniquely interesting blog; a good read.

4:10 PM  
Blogger Hello, ;) said...

Great Story!!

7:17 PM  
Blogger Cookie's Cupcakes said...

I feel this way almost everyday about my baby son. Great blog post.

8:31 PM  
Blogger Bernadette said...

Seven is magic. And the age of reason so they say.

10:57 PM  
Blogger Steve Ballmer said...

I love your pictures, good blog!

11:12 PM  
Blogger Vanna said...

Hello, I'm new to blogging and am still getting the hang of this sort of thing. I just wanted to say that you sound like a wonderful father and husband. Your pictures are stupendous and I thank you very much for sharing your experiences! It's been truly great reading your blog.

1:12 AM  
Blogger Agape said...

how do i make it possible for more people to see my blog?

1:27 AM  
Blogger enar arshad said...

happy birthday to your little girl.it was a beautiful piece

3:35 AM  
Blogger Soulyca said...

Hi! I'm french You can come to see my blog bye

3:50 AM  
Blogger Animeniac Guy said...

The anticipation, the happiness and the love...it is really touching, and thank you for allowing me see your happiness of being a dad. Best wishes for your family!

4:26 AM  
Blogger Sheila said...

That was very sweet. Happy late Birthday to your little girl!

5:57 AM  
Blogger AaYuShI said...

Hi..
You must be a really sweet dad =)
This one was completely priceless and extremely sweet and touching.
By the way I'm Aayushi..from India..I hope you'll visit my blog too =)
http://exceptionallyme.blogspot.com/

6:41 AM  
Blogger Marie speaks... said...

Happy Birthday, Megan! Your Daddy loves you very much! This post is just wonderful! Indeed, it's a fabulous way to reminisce the memories of the past when my Michelle was seven like your Megan is now! Believe it or not, your post made me teary because I miss my daughter very much! She now lives far away, and I'm here in Monterey. I would say that I feel you're a great Dad. How sweet! I was a Daddy's girl, so I know. But my Dad already passed on, and my kids are already grown. At 46, I'm living life all over again. So ENJOY her while you can! Mine grew too fast...

7:50 AM  
Blogger hamtaroplanet said...

Happy Birthday!!

7:54 AM  
Blogger Snoozer said...

A belated 'HAPPY BIRTHDAY'Madison.
You're very lucky to have such a lovely,loving Dad.

7:57 AM  
Blogger reality_dreamer said...

That is the most amazing post i have ever read..and i hope your daughter will get to read it when she is one day a parent too :)

8:12 AM  
Blogger PhotoMaster said...

You've just expressed my feelings when talking about the best trade in your life. I have a 12 weeks old baby and when it smiles I wonder how I could live all these years without her.

Happy birthday to your daughter!

8:32 AM  
Anonymous YanZ said...

u r lovely dad. the greatest love is parent to child.

9:14 AM  
Blogger Mama Lavender said...

Hello Fellow Traveler!
It's always nice to find another parent who just plain loves their child(ren). At times I feel alone adrift in a sea of resentful, angry parents.

11:04 AM  
Blogger Jerwin said...

Very touching your daughter is one very lucky little girl

12:00 PM  
Blogger Ashley said...

What a wonderful post! You're a talented writer.

2:25 PM  
Blogger Jamie said...

Your post gave me goosebumps...it was so well written. Thanks for sharing!

2:58 PM  
Blogger Ljiljan said...

Congratulations for "Blog of Note" result. Btw, very good blog... i wish you all the best :)

4:31 PM  
Blogger Aren in Bay Area said...

Nice blog.

2:13 PM  
Blogger Mom of 3 said...

You have echoed the same way I feel about all 3 of my children. My husband is now a stay-at-home Dad and loving every minute of it. I will continue to read your blog and will post a link on my blog.

Congrats on making Blogs of Note. Please check out my blog if you have time.

www.funwiththreekids.blogspot.com

8:00 PM  
Blogger Amber xo said...

Woah you get a lot of response...I guess I can see why. A truly lovely blog. Ever fancy some fashion...come visit me! PLEASE. skintchicfashion.blogspot.com Love from Amber-Rose xoxo

9:29 PM  
Blogger Chell said...

Wow, I hope my future husband and father of my children will feel like you and take the time to put his love in words for the world to read. Awesome.

Now, I know my Blog is nothing special, but at the moment its in its early stages, with little or no visitors and comments...have a look if you have some time.

All the best,
Rochelle

4:08 AM  
Blogger S. said...

This is so, so lovely. Lucky Madison to have a dad like you. You remind me of mine. =)

12:37 PM  
Blogger erinn said...

well and beautifully said. thanks for making me cry this afternoon, and i mean that as the most sincere compliment!

2:36 PM  
Blogger smileysunshine- said...

that is beautiful!! your blogs are really, really coool! i'm kinda ashamed at my pathetic attempt to write one now...
your daughters are blessed with a really wonderful Dad!!!

6:12 PM  
Blogger Ana said...

I was really touched by reading this post, esp, since its depicted so well, and makes it all so real
even though its few days later, Happy Birthday to your precious one....and congrats on the great job as a dad and a blogger ;)

7:14 PM  
Anonymous Luisa said...

aww, that was so sweet! :)

2:12 AM  
Blogger Shy said...

I just read "Seven" and I am crying in my keyboard! I loved it and appreciate you sharing it. You, Madison and your wife are very blessed to have each other.

10:22 AM  
Blogger BlogBug said...

I am like only 20 (in india, it's 'only' 20) and i so wannt to have a baby since so long just for the sake of it! umm.. had a chance long back but didn't take it, wise choice eh?
anyway, that was touching. congrats for your successful parenthood.

10:48 AM  
Blogger jennifer said...

this makes me believe that the world truly is perfect.

6:47 PM  
Blogger theespinozafamily said...

Brought a tear to my eye! A dad's perspective!

11:54 PM  
Blogger Rose DesRochers said...

What a loving post. Happy birthday to your little girl.

12:24 PM  
Blogger The Neighbor said...

This is the first thing I've read in a long time that makes me wish I had kids. Makes me want kids. The idea of two coming home as three - it simply never occurred to me. It's poetic. Kudos.

12:51 PM  
Blogger Fat SAHM said...

Slurp it down! The subtleness of children is truly a gift!

4:18 PM  
Blogger Blake & Lori said...

That was incredibly beautiful. I am a newlywed, and while children are a bit far off for us, it's something we look forward to, and reading things like this makes me even more excited for that time in our lives.

4:33 PM  
Blogger mehak4ya said...

No matter what life throws at you, I hope it’s something you never lose.
love that last quote! he story was short and sweet =]

8:43 PM  
Blogger Kate said...

Gah, you made me tear up a bit.

This post reminds me so much of an e-mail my dad wrote me last year on my 21st birthday about the day I was born.

I hope your relationship with your daughter only gets better with age!

8:53 PM  
Blogger sugeeandersyn said...

I'll be comment 126.

2:33 AM  
Blogger Rawan said...

that is to sweet! and your kid's got spunk, I like that!

11:03 PM  

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